Partner Betrayal

Partner Betrayal and Partners & Parents of Love & Sex Addicts

Some behaviors that partners and parents of sex and love addicts identify are:

Think, if the addict would just stop, I would be happy?

I look at Facebook and other social media and wish I was as happy as my friends seem to be.

Think having sexual relationship is a way to secure the relationship, even if you are not ready to have sex or the type of sex proposed does not reflect your values.

Have a physiological response to the addict – headaches, STD’s, etc.

To avoid negative feelings do you find yourself engaging in other compulsive behaviors – house cleaning, self-destructive behaviors, overeating?

Feel or be made to feel like the problem is your fault?

Concern about friends, family or employers finding out about the problem and that this will reflect negatively on you?

Believe that you can fix the addict or assist them in working their program?

Snoopervising – looking through bills, phones and other personal items for clues about behaviors?

Feel as though the addicts needs should come before your needs.

Worry excessively about the addicts where abouts, activities or who they are with?

Take the online self-assessment to see if you may benefit from services. Pat Carnes developed assessment tools for assessment of love & sex addicts, partners of love & sex addicts and parent’s of youth with love & sexual addiction issues. Please print out your results to bring to your appointment.

Disclaimer: I am respectful of all sexual orientations and of client’s values and faith values. I do not perform conversion therapy or support work that would go against a client’s value system, cultural diversity or faith. I have training and credentialing by the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals as a Certified Sexual Addictions Therapist. This extensive training is 120 hours of post-graduate training to specialize in the assessment of and treatment of sexual addiction, process addiction, trauma, partner and family issues. I support use of the Patrick Carnes Workbooks: The 40 Day Focus, Facing the Shadow, the Recovery Zone, and Facing Heartbreak. These can be purchased from myself or the website

The goal of recovery is not just abstinence or sobriety, it is connection.

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